Love

Love is such a simple emotion but has different names... Has a billion definitions... Thousands of theories - how to fall into it, fall out, survive in it and lots more I'm sure one would've seen the books based on every bizarre problem or memory forming event related to Love.

Just the other day I heard a celebrity couple, who've been together for about 7 years, claiming that their secret to their long lasting success - despite their busy schedules - is because they have a rule - "Not to be away from each other for more than 2 weeks" Somehow I don't find it very convincing because I'm sure there are a number of relationships that grew just because of the distance... Why.. Doesn't 'Absence make the heart grow fonder'?  People believe in 'Love at first sight'. But I find falling in love and growing to love a person more realistic! But I suppose that's just me. I believe that everyone is different, different views, thoughts and reactions and thus different ways and methods to deal with love.

One must remember that love isn't just the love that the Hollywood romantic comedies describe, it takes different forms depending on the person one deals with - parent-child, inter-sibling, friends-who-used-to-be-lovers, lovers-who-used-to-be-friends and of course best friends! 

What struck me was how most of our best relationships are the ones that come naturally, that have no rules, regulations or restrictions and are unconditional. Unconditional love. Sounds beautiful, right? I'm sure everyone of you just had a picture of a baby and its mother in your head. But you know, that's not the only unconditional love in the world. Every relation you are blood related to or grown up with is all unconditional. Your spouse you had an arranged marriage to, your older brother who practically rags you all day, your best friend who forgets to call you every once in while... But you love them with a pure heart and they love you back.

Its the modern human society with its rules that complicate things. The times that one would follow love advice, just because of  one person's failure and lose out on something that may have worked out. The age issues, same gender partners, live-in relations... All are 'problems' just because 'people' say so! Honestly... Love isn't something one controls. Why blame them?

I came to realize that it is in man's and maybe other social animals nature to love unconditionally. If one hates, it is because he has been told and taught to. If you ever meet a person who is easily forgiving and ready to spread cheer and love, encourage and learn from him. Don't degrade him just because he can't see how horrid the person he is with is - according to society. He is ready to care for people and things that may never have anything to give in return! He is the greater man.

I know this is a very debatable topic and I never took side, I am tolerant to both parties, just remember - Don't let rules bind you, Don't be afraid to fall in love and letting it show because its better living with a broken heart that can be fixed rather than a cyanosed heart lacking love that would slowly necrotize and be toxic to itself...